The Ideal Relationship

by Nick Andrea

So often we find ourselves in dissatisfying situations and think, “If I only had a different this, or that, things would be better.” We then entertain thoughts of leaving this for that, for example, leaving your partner for someone you deem better. We might even do it, only to discover a short while later that we’re still unhappy. We have brought our problems with us, like a ball and chain cuffed to our leg.

We eventually realize, however, that the reason we’re not happy is not that there’s something wrong with our circumstances – not having the right job, the right relationship, or even the right spiritual path designed to liberate us from our unhappiness – but, that there’s something wrong with me. The unhappiness is not in our circumstances, it’s in ourselves.

Look around you today and you will see countless examples of people who leave one situation for another out of dissatisfaction, only to come face to face with the same issue, again and again. It is because they seek satisfaction in form. This is why, when the glamor of one form wanes, and it ALWAYS does eventually, they seek it in another.

The problem of happiness, however, has nothing to do with the world of form. As the Oracle told Neo in the Matrix, “Temet Nosce,” which means, “know thyself,” and, like Socrates also told his students in Athens thousands of years ago, to know oneself is the key to happiness.

But, our Self is not found in the world of form. If that were so, it would die with our bodies. But, as I discussed in my last post, Does The Brain Produce Consciousness, our body is merely a receiver of a consciousness greater than it, a cosmic consciousness from which all arises and to which all returns. It is called the formless realm, and its lifespan is eternity. That formless realm IS you, IS me, therefore, how can we find ultimate happiness in the world of form?

So, to be happy in the world of form – in our jobs, relationships, and our chosen paths – we have to be aware of the formless, the undying reality, within us. We have to know ourselves, and that can’t happen by chasing outward forms, but it does happen through awareness of the wholeness that is already there. That is the ideal job, the ideal relationship, the ideal spiritual path.


About NickAndrea19

My goal has always been and continues to be the liberation of minds, my own and what influence I may have on others, to perceive the extraordinary beauty all around us. To this end, I write, play music, and design websites. Don't hesitate to contact me for more information about any of these activities. :)
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2 Responses to The Ideal Relationship

  1. Lori DiNardi says:

    Yep, it’s like that old saying, “Wherever you go, there you are.” Great post, Nick.

    • NickAndrea19 says:

      Thanks, Lori. I think this is a major part of that personal responsibility piece we’ve been debating on your blog. Fullness in oneself breeds the capacity to give, does it not?

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